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Ways to Discipline Ungrateful Children
Almost every child goes through an ungrateful stage (or stages) during childhood. It’s just a part of life. The good news is that when it comes to disciplining these children, it CAN be done. Better yet, it’s probably easier than you think. Here are several strategies to consider.
Point Out the Ungrateful Attitude
Remember that young children, especially, don’t realize that they’re ungrateful. You have to point the issue out to them. Once your child has been appropriately disciplined, talk about some of the things to be grateful for. Explain that not everyone is lucky enough to have these things and that it’s not right to take them for granted. Expand on the subject every now and then, just as a gentle reminder.
Make a Deal
Don’t beat yourself up for making a “deal” with your child every once in a while. For example, if he (or she) persists in asking you if he can read a book for thirty minutes after bedtime, tell him that you’re willing to make a compromise. Set a timer for 15 minutes instead. This way, everybody is happy.
Stand Your Ground
In the event, your child won’t do as you say when disciplined, stand your ground if you sound like a “broken record” it’s ok. Really, it is. Sometimes it’s the only thing that works. There’s nothing wrong with being sympathetic and listening to what he has to say. However, if the discussion comes to the point of standstill, don’t be afraid to end it and walk away firmly.
It’s essential to treat your child with respect, even during your most stressful moments. Exhibiting stress allows him to take advantage of the situation and makes things worse instead of better.
Allow Privileges When Earned
At least for the majority of the time, it’s best only to allow privileges when earned. This way, children learn that they need to follow the rules to participate in activities and get rewarded with some of the things they ask for. Always reinforce positive behavior, as well. This makes children feel good and reminds them that they’re on the right track.
Giving children toys or other gifts to get them to act less ungratefully just doesn’t work. In fact, it causes more serious problems.
Focus on Helping Others
When you focus more on helping others, you’ll probably find that your child’s self-centered attitude will improve. Of course, this won’t happen overnight. But, the more helpful children become, the more their outlook on gratefulness changes. As an added benefit, helping others fosters kindness and empathy, as well. Both of these attributes will follow your child to adulthood, and there’s certainly nothing wrong with that.
Child development experts tell us that ungrateful children typically don’t grow up to be exceedingly selfish, or greedy. It’s something that most kids grow out of by the age of 8 or 9. So, there’s no need to panic. The best thing to do is to stay as calm as possible when these situations arise. Be firm, and the crisis will pass. Remember, it’s all in a day’s work of a parent.