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Stay Positive
I’ll Help You Parent With Intention, So You Can Raise Your Littles Without Stress Or Losing Your Sh*t.

Raise Culturally Sound Kids
Learn how to help your kids be mindful of others. Learn to love and embrace everyone’s differences (instead of ignoring or dismissing them).

Have A Happy Marriage
Discover how to stay in love with your spouse-forever. Mend mishaps and use those stressful experiences to bond you CLOSER.

Create The Life Of Your Dreams
SAHM, WAHM or anything in between. It’s about YOU. Work from anywhere, homeschool your kids and raise your family on your terms! 

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  • The part of motherhood I wasn’t prepared for

    The part of motherhood I wasn’t prepared for:

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    Speak to any mama about motherhood or any parenting & you’ll pretty much get the gist that they love it. It’s a tough job no doubt, long hours, no monetary pay but we wouldn’t change it for the world! I read every book on the market, a plethora of parenting articles & had countless conversations…but no one it mattered. Well, okay, that’s drastic lol. But seriously, I was NOT prepared for what smacked me in the face! This is a list of what has taken a toll on me personally & has needed the most attention to overcome.

    Sleep

    What does that word even mean?! I prepared myself for sleepness nights but my goodness! In my experiences at least, no matter what age your kid is, you’ll never get proper rest again. Even if you’ve passed the newborn or toddler stage, there is always something to keep you up, Be it a dream, potty calls, or just wanting cuddles. IF they actually sleep soundly-you’ll be up, with a wandering mind.

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    Judgers

    People will judge you. It’s tough. They will criticize you & many will condemn you if they can. Other peoples thoughts, opinions, or even statements are NONE of your concern. Try your best never to let others negative words fester in your spirit. You can’t please everyone. Someone somewhere will always disagree with you or your decisions. Respectfully, agree to disagree & carry on.

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    Marriage

    Your marriage will go through rough patches, be it due to co-sleeping & having a continental divide or Daddy unable to rest after a

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    day… things will get shaky…hang on tight & be strong! Learning how to live as a family after living as a couple can take some time.

    Guilt

    You’ll go through a considerable A LOT of feelings of guilt. Feelings of unworthiness. Like you aren’t doing a good job or not cut out for motherhood. Get that out of your head right now. You are worthy & called to do this. He who is greater is FOR you & with Him, you are enough.

    Balance

    Managing a home is tough work! We’re constantly playing a balancing act to keep it all together. There will be many great days…but there will also be times it’ll feel like a hot mess & times where it’ll all fall apart. But that’s okay. Rise up & try one more time. Take each day, just a day or a moment at a time. Because your limits will be pushed, Your sanity will be tested & your boundaries will be no more. Remember that family comes first.

    Friendships

    You may become scarce in this department. Friends who you had or thought would stick around may not. The differences in seasons of lives will make friends drift apart. Mothers & wives don’t always have a lot in common with single, child-free women. This was extremely tough for me because although I’m an introvert & never had a crowd of friends, I value relationships dearly…So when I lost touch with that, it was definitely a tough experience to overcome & a hard pill to swallow. But, dear friend- there is hope! These experiences

    will create

    growth in you like you never imagined! When you do make new friends, you’ll appreciate the connection of your newfound relationship as a mother 🙂

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    Loneliness

    Despite being in a household full of children & an amazing husband, well, you will get very lonely. For me, of course, I love my children dearly & I know you do too, but we need interactions & conversations that are much deeper & thought-provoking than the dinner menu or what happened on paw patrol! LOL

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    Please tell me I am not alone here?! What about you?

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  • Quick DIY home makeover tips

    Simple quick DIY home makeover tips when you’re traveling and on a budget

    How to make an empty house a home in just a few days!

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    • Can’t paint your whole house?- Add wooden borders to the bottom of walls all along house…and borders (paper or paint) along top or middle as well.

    • Lighter walls make small spaces seem larger: Place furniture along walls for small spaces and embrace mirrors!

    • Less is more in a home in every area

    Not staying long or can’t afford to furnish immediately?

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    Here are some ideas…

    Living room area– stop at resale shops/charity shops/garage sales/ your friend’s storage unit LOL and ask around for unused and unwanted items… you’ll be surprised at what you can find this way! Or you can furnish your home the way I have done countless times-with amazon!

    Because we travel so frequently and don’t own a home, we always have a vacant apartment to fill.

    This is what I’ve done:

    • We’ve purchased inflatable sofas.

    And when dressed with pillows they can be a lot of fun!

    • If a television is needed- Walmart is your friend with cheap TVs and stands/otherwise your computer is just perfect!
    • Get yourself a picnic table for cheap- and toss a nice tablecloth over it… Any chair will do and you can place chair pillows on tops of these.
    • Furnish your kitchen with what the dollar store and Walmart has to offer! They can even be cheaper than the dollar store and offer better quality on some items. Like utensils such as spoons and forks but the dollar store is better for those small items like cutting boards and tongs etc
    • Ditto for bathroom needs such as shower curtains etc
      Amazon & your typical local superstore will have nice selections of rugs for cheap and bathroom essentials that go a long way to make a house much cozier.

    Now, I give these suggestions, assuming you’ll be living in this new space short-term…IF it will be long-term, I’d suggest, trying as best you can to save to buy better quality items from other stores. Buying quality items may have a high up-front cost…but will last SO much longer 🙂

    …Because we have strict limitations with weight and dimensions, these are some of the things I do & bring along to help make our travel homes feel more like home:

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    Things I Bring:

    • Removable wall decals
    • Lightweight Artwork (This could be quality artwork that’s printed & laminated or a small lightweight canvas & photos)
    • Over-the-door hooks
    • Lightweight play-mats
    • 1-2 sets of sheets
    • Photos
    • Books (paperback only)
    • Dry-erase markers
    • Select toys
    • Poster putty
    • Adjustable suction cup hooks
    Things I Do:
    • Save & reuse glass food jars, buy paint & decorate
    • Draw, paint, color some more & display
    • Write on our mirrors, refrigerator, dishwasher & any other workable/washable surface
    • Maintain consistency with house decor

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    What do you think?

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  • When Kids Aren’t Listening

    Put your shoes on RIGHT NOW. OR ELSE! This is the fifth time I’ve asked you, mister…yada yada yada. Sound familiar? Why won’t our children do what they’re told?

    In a perfect world, children would obey their parents without a second thought. Unfortunately, the world is far from perfect, and kids don’t always do as they are told. The good news is that, as a parent, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Read on to learn how to get your child to do what you ask… without begging, bribing, threatening, and screaming. Yay!

    Be Versatile

    No two children the same. It’s for that reason that you need to be versatile when it comes to getting your children to obey you. Some kids are naturally strong-willed, which poses more of a challenge. You may have to impose consequences several times for them to follow the rules. If one particular consequence doesn’t seem to be doing the trick, the best thing to do is to try a new one.

    Choose Your Battles

    Don’t reinforce rules that don’t have major significance. For example, in the case of older children, don’t be so strict about things like having them make the bed the first thing in the morning. It’s more vital for them to wear a helmet when skateboarding or riding a bike.

    When attempting to get your children to follow the rules, regardless of their ages, issue an appropriate time limit. Simply giving them a list of things to do, without a timeframe attached, means that what you’re asking them to do may never get done.

    Be an Active Listener

    It’s imperative to listen to your children, regardless of how well they do what you ask. If they continue to disobey you, even after multiple attempts of being told what to do, take the time to sit down with them and ask them what the problem is. Getting down to the bottom of the issue will help you both understand the steps you should take to rectify the problem.

    Say What You Mean

    When you tell your child to do something, mean it. Following through is everything. Children who don’t obey only learn by being presented with a set of age-appropriate consequences. No consequences mean that they can continue to ignore your requests without any significant changes in their daily routine.

    Also, make sure your child is paying full attention to what you’re saying. Look him (or her) in the eye to let him know that you mean business. Many parents make the mistake of yelling commands from another room. Typically, when this happens, the request is taken much less seriously. If your child isn’t in the same place as you, ask him to come to you or take an extra minute and go to the child.

    Probably the most important thing to remember is to stand your ground. Never give in, no matter how tense the situation. If you give in once, your kids will recognize that the next time they don’t want to obey. They’ll drag things out until you decide to give in again.

    These are just a few simple things that you can do to get your child to obey you the first time, without the need to threaten or beg. It may take a bit of time to achieve satisfactory results. But, with patience and due diligence, chances are you’ll soon see significant improvement.

    You Need to Take Care of This

    Parenting isn’t always easy, especially when it comes to deciding which parent is going to dole out the discipline. Arguments often ensue as a result of one parent insisting that the other be “the bad guy.” It’s an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved.

    The good news is that there is something that you can do, as the disciplinarian, to better communicate with the unwilling parent. Keep reading for more information.

     Be Insistent  

    When being asked to lay down the law, be persistent in your explanation that you feel the task needs to be a shared responsibility. Indicate that you prefer to talk to your children as part of a team. This will help to prevent the possibility that your child will automatically take sides and end up preferring to deal with the more lenient parent whenever times get tough.

    Giving in to the other person’s demands, to make the problem go away, isn’t an answer. Think of it as putting the bandage on a cut that needs stitches. It’s always much better to come to some agreement regarding sharing disciplinary responsibilities, rather than just giving up.

    Don’t Argue 

    When your spouse, ex, or significant other demands that you talk to your child to rectify any issue, do everything you can not to argue about it – especially when the child is in earshot. Even if you have to step away for a moment to gather your thoughts, it’s much better than getting into a heated discussion.

    Along the same lines, never tell your children that the other parent is making you discipline them. It should be obvious that bad-mouthing mom or dad will only create more hatred and lessen the chance of everyone getting along in the future.

      Instill Confidence  

    Many times, in cases like this, silent parents are silent because they lack confidence in their parenting skills… especially when there is tension in the household. Try to reassure your child’s other parent that he or she is an essential part of the disciplinary process and that you genuinely value their input in the matter.

    Mental Consequences

    Unfortunately, there can be mental consequences to frequent “good cop, bad cop” discipline sessions. Children learn about relationships by watching their parents. So, as adults, these same children will be more apt to get into an identical routine with their kids.

    Also, on an even deeper level, children whose parents have a difficult time with discipline sometimes suffer from lower self-esteem. Typically, when a child feels as though a parent has a problem accomplishing something, he (or she) perceives the same of himself.

    Remember, the “good cop, bad cop” approach is meant for criminals, not children. Pitting one parent against the other never solves anything. It only creates more tension and possibly even alienation.

    There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having different parenting styles. Varying perspectives are quite beneficial when it comes to many parenting-related issues. Problems occur when one parent is so set in his or her ways is it difficult for them to try something different.

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  • should we pray with our children

    Should we pray together with our children?

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    If you’re not a ‘new’ Christian, none of what I’m going to write will come as a surprise and this isn’t for you 😉

    This post is for the new mamas whose learning and trying to make sense of this brand new identity, just like I was just a few years ago.

    And so, YES! You should absolutely be giving your kiddos the opportunity to join you in prayer.

    There’s something powerful about praying in unity with others and certainly with our children.

    By praying together, you’re leading by example and there’s truly nothing more powerful than that!

    I didn’t grow up in a religious household or even a Christian household for that matter. However, some nights during my childhood, my mother would recite the ‘Our Father’ prayer & I’m so grateful she did.

    Why you should pray with your children?

    • Praying is nurturing to the spirit
    • It teaches our kids that they’re connected to a larger reality that surpasses our own thoughts and understanding…teaching them trust
    • Prayer teaches us how to submit and quiet our spirits. We’re able to be a living example of stillness and working and sorting through all the emotions of our day and that of what consumes our mind.
    • Prayer encourages us to read the scriptures…Seeking His Word, allows us to get all the answers we need
    • It teaches how to develop gratitude and joy… when we teach our children to be grateful and to pray for the blessings received, they learn to give thanks
    • Allows quality time together…simply put- praying together is an intimate and holy thing to do
    • Gives children confidence and boldness… when fears arise- prayers help make a child feel safe
    • It encourages positive behavior. As kids learn what the Word of God says, they learn to obey and the world gets loving, well behaved, compassionate children! [well, most of the time! haha]
    • There is POWER in prayer
    • It’s a blessing for you and your child
    • Provides ample practice to memorize the scriptures

    Let’s raise up arrows together! What are some other great reasons to pray with our children? Let’s hear it below!